He was a good man
His kidness made my life bearable
He saw my faults and did not feel repulsed
I wanted what was offered
We did not see under the surface
His violence and things born from our agreement
Startled he as well as I
To find reason and excuses was a natural reaction,
Telling ones self this is not the normal it will never happen again
Each new incident had reason and excuse
When the ugly came out we told ourselves all would pass

When we love someone completely it is impossible not to make excuses and believe things will be better, the oppressed become protector of the abused.

Family forgives and covers a loved ones transgressions, becoming completely dependent without free thought of their own.

As years pass someone can fade away the wrongs truthfully trying to get retribution and forgiveness from ones self as well as those he damaged,

Because someone does unspeakable things does not mean they cannot often become good, knowing their wrongs and trying to change

A wife, child friend or family needs this unit and wants to forget the bad.

One can only hope that to forgive and act blind to evil acts will lead to more stable and secure adults, to be reminded of past transgressions stunts growth and stops improvement,