A Fly on the Wall
Viewing comments for Chapter 7 "On Knowing When It's Right"A journal musings and assessments about situations
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Comment from Diana L Crawford
Congrats on your placement in the contest, but of course I think it was far better! Your story is so thought provoking! You have touched upon all the attributes of a relationship that definitely need to be considered! I love the last part! Thankfully my daughter found just this kind of love and I am so happy knowing she has an awesome guy at her side :) xo
reply by the author on 13-Jun-2019
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Congrats on your placement in the contest, but of course I think it was far better! Your story is so thought provoking! You have touched upon all the attributes of a relationship that definitely need to be considered! I love the last part! Thankfully my daughter found just this kind of love and I am so happy knowing she has an awesome guy at her side :) xo
Comment Written 13-Jun-2019
reply by the author on 13-Jun-2019
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That IS a wonderful thing, Diana! It makes a mom be able to take a deep breath.xo
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Amen!
Comment from BeasPeas
Congratulations on placing in the contest. Your chapter for Book of the Month is very well done. Common sense in an honest, straightforward fashion. Great job. Marilyn
reply by the author on 13-Jun-2019
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Congratulations on placing in the contest. Your chapter for Book of the Month is very well done. Common sense in an honest, straightforward fashion. Great job. Marilyn
Comment Written 13-Jun-2019
reply by the author on 13-Jun-2019
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Thank you, Marilyn. Congratulations to YOU, too!! xo
Comment from judester
You come right now and sit down beside me. Bravo you and the win. Serious, heartfelt words of advice for everyone and every relationship. This is powerful and true wisdom chica. Cheers, judester
reply by the author on 13-Jun-2019
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You come right now and sit down beside me. Bravo you and the win. Serious, heartfelt words of advice for everyone and every relationship. This is powerful and true wisdom chica. Cheers, judester
Comment Written 13-Jun-2019
reply by the author on 13-Jun-2019
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I would love to do that!! We would have the best time together! I just know it.
Thanks for the encouraging, validating review. Very much appreciated. xo
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I thought your writing was a joy to read.
If you ever pass through Vermont, I hope that you will come visit me, see my cool cabin. Cheers, mystery writer, haha
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My best friend from college lives in Middlesex. Ordinarily, each summer we meet halfway between our two places, so, Lake George. But we could change it up this year, and I could visit her there and then come visit you! Let me know what you think about that! xo
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Yeth please. That would be great. My cabin is at Jay peak. Would love you to see it. Two things you might want to google. Bread and puppet, a magical circus in a farmers field with huge puppets and fresh bread. Beautiful people on a Sunday, just being royal. The other thing is the Shelburne museum. Really neat place. Oh, I would love a visit! Cheers, j
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Will you still be there in August? SueAnne and I usually meet up the first weekend.
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I will be. I live on lake Memphremagog in Quebec and my cabin is twenty minutes and a border away in Jay. Okay counting sleeps. Haha, cheers and welcome. Judy
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Sounds good! Let me get to work figuring out all the logistics. Thank you very much for the invitation! xo
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Roger that. Just let me know. What fun. Cheers, j
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This WOULD be fun!! I could use a little summer adventure!
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road trip! Let me know if there is something special you want to do. I love the bread and puppet on Sunday's. Maybe a fair, they start around then. Just let me know. Fun, j
Comment from WalkerMan
Your eight points may be the wisest relationship advice ever presented in such compact form. It ought to be required reading in junior high school before serious relationships develop. No wonder your second marriage is so stable and fulfilling.
You are right on every point; and the salon owner is the perfect foil, as her choice of wealth over love is already leading to restlessness.
Superb. Here's another Virtual Six. Congratulations for winning Second Place in the Book of the Month Contest.
reply by the author on 13-Jun-2019
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Your eight points may be the wisest relationship advice ever presented in such compact form. It ought to be required reading in junior high school before serious relationships develop. No wonder your second marriage is so stable and fulfilling.
You are right on every point; and the salon owner is the perfect foil, as her choice of wealth over love is already leading to restlessness.
Superb. Here's another Virtual Six. Congratulations for winning Second Place in the Book of the Month Contest.
Comment Written 13-Jun-2019
reply by the author on 13-Jun-2019
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I am grateful for the virtuals, Walkman, because they come with the warmest, most encouraging reviews ever. Thank you, sincerely. I love this. xo
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You are most welcome, Rachelle. -- Mike
Comment from Mistydawn
This is a very well-written, powerful piece. It has a lot of wisdom, great advice behind it. I'm sure it'll help a lot of people reexamine their life, relationships, nicely done.
reply by the author on 28-May-2019
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This is a very well-written, powerful piece. It has a lot of wisdom, great advice behind it. I'm sure it'll help a lot of people reexamine their life, relationships, nicely done.
Comment Written 28-May-2019
reply by the author on 28-May-2019
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What an encouraging, validating review this is, Mistydawn. Thanks very much. It means a lot. xo
Comment from Scarbrems
Loved this. Loved all the pre-amble about your hairdresser. I've got a cousin like that.
As a 22 years-married person I agree with most of your advice. I'm 'on' my first husband, and have no intention of having another.
' You can opt to stay put after the initial discovery and catharsis, but you'll spend every subsequent day pretending that you don't really hear anything scrabbling around in the dark corners of your world.' A great way of putting it, and probably very true. I wouldn't know. It is not a path I have, fortunately, had to tread with my husband.
'The bottom line is this: If your union isn't enjoyable, then you've totally missed the point of it.' - Amen to that. My mother always said, 'marriage is hard work'. she was in the wrong marriage.
A great write, as always.
reply by the author on 28-May-2019
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Loved this. Loved all the pre-amble about your hairdresser. I've got a cousin like that.
As a 22 years-married person I agree with most of your advice. I'm 'on' my first husband, and have no intention of having another.
' You can opt to stay put after the initial discovery and catharsis, but you'll spend every subsequent day pretending that you don't really hear anything scrabbling around in the dark corners of your world.' A great way of putting it, and probably very true. I wouldn't know. It is not a path I have, fortunately, had to tread with my husband.
'The bottom line is this: If your union isn't enjoyable, then you've totally missed the point of it.' - Amen to that. My mother always said, 'marriage is hard work'. she was in the wrong marriage.
A great write, as always.
Comment Written 28-May-2019
reply by the author on 28-May-2019
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Oh, Sarkems, you have the nicest way of always making me feel so good. Thank you for this extremely encouraging review. I always appreciate hearing from you. xo
Comment from judiverse
This is a topic that has generated a lot of interest, and your comments are well thought out and well expressed. I find it amazing how a person's outward appearance can be so different from what's going on inside. Apparently, she has everything she could wish for financially, but her marriage is in trouble. Her predicament is that her workaholic husband is so much older than she, and she has a yen for younger guys. This is turning the tables, as she asked for your advice. Usually its the client who seeks advice from the beautician. Very perceptive. judi
reply by the author on 27-May-2019
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This is a topic that has generated a lot of interest, and your comments are well thought out and well expressed. I find it amazing how a person's outward appearance can be so different from what's going on inside. Apparently, she has everything she could wish for financially, but her marriage is in trouble. Her predicament is that her workaholic husband is so much older than she, and she has a yen for younger guys. This is turning the tables, as she asked for your advice. Usually its the client who seeks advice from the beautician. Very perceptive. judi
Comment Written 27-May-2019
reply by the author on 27-May-2019
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Thanks, Judi. It went in one ear and out the other for her, though. That entry is from two years ago, and since then, she has divorced him, moved into a condo, and begun dating another much older, rich guy. (I guess because it worked so well for her last time...) Oy.
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You're welcome. She seems to be putting her desire for money ahead of any chances for happiness she may have. judi
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You're welcome. She seems to be putting her desire for money ahead of any chances for happiness she may have. judi
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You're welcome. She seems to be putting her desire for money ahead of any chances for happiness she may have. judi
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You are one hundred percent right! There is NO helping this woman/child.
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She's been after the money, but it clearly isn't making her happy. judi
Comment from Debra White
Hey Rachelle :)
What a wise lady you are...
You're right on every point you so eloquently made.
Thanks for sharing this. It all makes perfect sense.
My best wishes to you as always, Debra :) x
reply by the author on 27-May-2019
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Hey Rachelle :)
What a wise lady you are...
You're right on every point you so eloquently made.
Thanks for sharing this. It all makes perfect sense.
My best wishes to you as always, Debra :) x
Comment Written 27-May-2019
reply by the author on 27-May-2019
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Save it and give it to your girls someday!! :)
Thanks for always being so encouraging, Debra. I always appreciate your warmth and kindness. xo
Comment from shaffer40
This is excellent writing -- both in content and delivery. I like the following line: Salon Code requires complete disclosure at all times. Your description of the salon owner is humorous, and then you get down to business. The "diamonds you unearthed" are profound, yet, so sensible one wonders why they aren't obvious to us all.
I have one suggestion re: the writing. I think the line "So, whyever in the world...? would be stronger minus the "So," especially since you have "then" later. Or maybe "Whyever, then, are you accepting it for yourself?" The extra verbiage weakens what should come across as a powerful jab.
reply by the author on 27-May-2019
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This is excellent writing -- both in content and delivery. I like the following line: Salon Code requires complete disclosure at all times. Your description of the salon owner is humorous, and then you get down to business. The "diamonds you unearthed" are profound, yet, so sensible one wonders why they aren't obvious to us all.
I have one suggestion re: the writing. I think the line "So, whyever in the world...? would be stronger minus the "So," especially since you have "then" later. Or maybe "Whyever, then, are you accepting it for yourself?" The extra verbiage weakens what should come across as a powerful jab.
Comment Written 27-May-2019
reply by the author on 27-May-2019
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I think you're right about that, Shaffer40; I'll change that as soon as I'm done answering all my reviews. Thanks for the input. I always appreciate it. xo
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xo
Comment from LisaMay
I see this was written a couple of years ago, or the encounter with gossipy manicurist happened a couple of years back. I wonder if she did the right thing and got a life of her own? Money does not in itself make people 'rich'. Sage counsel beautifully written, Sweetheart.
reply by the author on 27-May-2019
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I see this was written a couple of years ago, or the encounter with gossipy manicurist happened a couple of years back. I wonder if she did the right thing and got a life of her own? Money does not in itself make people 'rich'. Sage counsel beautifully written, Sweetheart.
Comment Written 27-May-2019
reply by the author on 27-May-2019
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Thank you, my always-supportive friend.
I know -from a mutual friend, since I no longer patronize her- that she's now divorced, living in a condo...and having an affair with another rich guy twenty years her senior. She's obviously learned a lot.
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She must be an airhead, or have very expensive tastes... she just got used to being pampered with a cushion of wealth. Being poor I can still have a rich life... I've cut my cloth to suit.
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Salon Girls never learn, I swear. They love drama and have to keep learning the same lesson over and over and over.