A Fly on the Wall
Viewing comments for Chapter 19 "On...Hazing"A journal musings and assessments about situations
23 total reviews
Comment from Sally Law
I can't believe I missed this delightful chapter. Congratulations on your nomination and my very best for the contest.
Sending you my best today as always,
Sal XO
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2022
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I can't believe I missed this delightful chapter. Congratulations on your nomination and my very best for the contest.
Sending you my best today as always,
Sal XO
Comment Written 10-Sep-2022
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2022
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Thank you!!! I always love your reviews, Miss Positive and Kind. xo
Comment from Carol Clark2
I think many of us have experienced scenes like the one your described with the third-grade Popular Pretty Girl. And why do college and hazing so often appear in the same sentence? It's also hard to understand why this sort of thing happens in fitness clubs. Hope it goes better the next time you're there. Blessings.
reply by the author on 14-Aug-2022
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I think many of us have experienced scenes like the one your described with the third-grade Popular Pretty Girl. And why do college and hazing so often appear in the same sentence? It's also hard to understand why this sort of thing happens in fitness clubs. Hope it goes better the next time you're there. Blessings.
Comment Written 14-Aug-2022
reply by the author on 14-Aug-2022
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That essay was from four years ago. You'll love how I evened the score, Carol: I became an AquaFit INSTRUCTOR!!! Hahahaha! Then they HAD to be nice to me!!!
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Yes, I love that you became an instructor there. I think that comes under the category of 'heaping coals of fire' on the enemy! Lol.
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hahhaha
Comment from Regina Elliott
Oh, gosh, what a superb write
on your experiences with
being hazed. I was bullied all
through grade school. I just
turned 65, and it still happens
on occasion with mostly
young men being rude and
cruel with the spoken word.
I was never a beauty. Anyway,
this is a brilliant write on your
life experiences with hazing.
Navy bootcamp wasn't easy but, it wasn't easy for
a lot of other young women
either. Thank you for penning
about your life experiences.
Many blessings to you. ~
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2022
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Oh, gosh, what a superb write
on your experiences with
being hazed. I was bullied all
through grade school. I just
turned 65, and it still happens
on occasion with mostly
young men being rude and
cruel with the spoken word.
I was never a beauty. Anyway,
this is a brilliant write on your
life experiences with hazing.
Navy bootcamp wasn't easy but, it wasn't easy for
a lot of other young women
either. Thank you for penning
about your life experiences.
Many blessings to you. ~
Comment Written 13-Aug-2022
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2022
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Wow, Navy boot camp! I think you should show those young bucks a thing or two about respect!!
Thanks for this encouraging review. I appreciate it.
Comment from Marienkiefer
I love the the elements of this story. Nice how it took us back to your memories in grade school and the evolution of hazing...and in the end you hazed them too.
-Love the leopard suit, that said ready to rumba to me.
-I just love what you put into these stories and what I get out of them: humour and lessons in life, connecting it to your own growth and current events, somewhat like a Talk Magazine.
Well done. Have a nice day.
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2022
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I love the the elements of this story. Nice how it took us back to your memories in grade school and the evolution of hazing...and in the end you hazed them too.
-Love the leopard suit, that said ready to rumba to me.
-I just love what you put into these stories and what I get out of them: humour and lessons in life, connecting it to your own growth and current events, somewhat like a Talk Magazine.
Well done. Have a nice day.
Comment Written 13-Aug-2022
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2022
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Oh, Mariien, what would I do w/o these wonderful reviews of yours? You always make me feel like I'm accomplishing what I set out to with these stories. Thank you. Xo
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My pleasure.🌸
Comment from WalkerMan
You really did quite well against the hazers in each case you described so well in this chapter. Clearly, none of them were able to intimidate you because you outsmarted them. If I had witnessed any of those events, I would have secretly cheered for you and then told you later, as I've always ranked heart and brains above appearance, though you had that too. Anyway, I enjoyed reading this. Superb.
You may be interested in an old post of mine that addresses bullying in relationships that too often becomes abuse ("Abuse -- Causes and Remedies"):
https://www.fanstory.com/displaystory.jsp?hd=1&id=903712
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2022
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You really did quite well against the hazers in each case you described so well in this chapter. Clearly, none of them were able to intimidate you because you outsmarted them. If I had witnessed any of those events, I would have secretly cheered for you and then told you later, as I've always ranked heart and brains above appearance, though you had that too. Anyway, I enjoyed reading this. Superb.
You may be interested in an old post of mine that addresses bullying in relationships that too often becomes abuse ("Abuse -- Causes and Remedies"):
https://www.fanstory.com/displaystory.jsp?hd=1&id=903712
Comment Written 12-Aug-2022
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2022
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I'm away on vacation this weekend, but I'm returning home tomorrow and look forward to checking that out. I always love what you write. Thanks for the extra star and the lovely review. Xo
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You are most welcome, Rachelle. There is no way to defeat a truly righteous woman who is smart and bold enough to stand her ground. Your husband was wise to choose you as his life partner. :)) -- Mike
Comment from Spitfire
A read that kept my attention to the end. I've been 'hazed' in my senior years. Not only did it bring back painful memories but made me realize how cruel peers can be-- a carry-over of their behavior throughout life.
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2022
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A read that kept my attention to the end. I've been 'hazed' in my senior years. Not only did it bring back painful memories but made me realize how cruel peers can be-- a carry-over of their behavior throughout life.
Comment Written 12-Aug-2022
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2022
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It is rather amazing, isn't it. Thank you for this nice review and the extra star as well. Very much appreciated, Spitfire!
Comment from judiverse
These are all such compelling incidents of hazing. I never thought of it occurring with senior citizens, especially that disgusting man. I don't why people join fraternities or sororities in college if they have to endure such indignities. I've even heard of young people dying as a result of some hazing activity. Just a thought--is there anyone to whom you could report that man's behavior at the AquaFit class? Excellent write. judi
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2022
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These are all such compelling incidents of hazing. I never thought of it occurring with senior citizens, especially that disgusting man. I don't why people join fraternities or sororities in college if they have to endure such indignities. I've even heard of young people dying as a result of some hazing activity. Just a thought--is there anyone to whom you could report that man's behavior at the AquaFit class? Excellent write. judi
Comment Written 12-Aug-2022
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2022
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Hi!
No, no one ever did anything to him, which shocked me! [Was he 'connected' to a Power That Be? Or did he just get a pass bc he was so old. The old "Just Let Him Be." At any rate, it's a moot point now. After COVID, I never saw him again.
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What was he doing in there with a bunch of women, anyway? If you never saw him again, your worries are over. judi
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It is a co-ed class, but many datimes, there's only a few men.
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I hope you don't encounter any men like that one. judi
Comment from Liz O'Neill
Hazing is a polite word for bullying: "but didn't go the extra mile of admitting that I, too, still sucked my thumb...every night, in the dark," This is too popular a belief: " Being a Popular Pretty sorority girl requires some sacrifices. Who doesn't know that!" This is a great image: "The flames from the candles around the room cast shadows onto the walls that looked like twitching elfin dancers casting a spell on me." Is this a foreshadowing for a cautionary tale? Interesting concept. You may have something here: "The diapers and bib had obviously worked their magic on poor LuAnne.)" I'm just going to read the rest. Ilike the resolve at the end. Well done.
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2022
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Hazing is a polite word for bullying: "but didn't go the extra mile of admitting that I, too, still sucked my thumb...every night, in the dark," This is too popular a belief: " Being a Popular Pretty sorority girl requires some sacrifices. Who doesn't know that!" This is a great image: "The flames from the candles around the room cast shadows onto the walls that looked like twitching elfin dancers casting a spell on me." Is this a foreshadowing for a cautionary tale? Interesting concept. You may have something here: "The diapers and bib had obviously worked their magic on poor LuAnne.)" I'm just going to read the rest. Ilike the resolve at the end. Well done.
Comment Written 12-Aug-2022
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2022
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That you very, very much. You know I love specific reviews like this. They help enormously!
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***Smiles***
Comment from bob cullen
I'm not sure if this terrifies me or challenges me to keep reading. Can there be anything more frightening than a group of aging women who see every stranger younger than themselves as a threat, a threat that must be eliminated.
It is however well written. Vindictiveness and bitchiness thrive. Your characterisation comes across splendidly.
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2022
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I'm not sure if this terrifies me or challenges me to keep reading. Can there be anything more frightening than a group of aging women who see every stranger younger than themselves as a threat, a threat that must be eliminated.
It is however well written. Vindictiveness and bitchiness thrive. Your characterisation comes across splendidly.
Comment Written 12-Aug-2022
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2022
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Hahaha! I couldn't agree more! Thanks for your review.
Comment from Michele Harber
This is so reminiscent of the movie "Queen Bees," except that, in the movie, the bullied eventually transform and befriend the bullies. It's also reminiscent of my school years, where I was literally bullied for not being a bully. By the way, the thought of hazing is why I never went out for a sorority. I'm not the type who would have given in to what they asked me to do, which would not have gone over well.
Obviously, your story is painfully relatable, and it's sad to realize that not every childhood bully outgrows the tendency. I respect that you fought back, and I love your last line, "Haze THAT, you Loch Ness monsters!" I hope you had the chance to say something equally biting to them in person.
If you don't mind one editing point, "quite" means "somewhat" or "very," which makes "quite full-to-capacity" an oxymoron. "Full-to-capacity" gets your point across without a modifier.
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2022
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This is so reminiscent of the movie "Queen Bees," except that, in the movie, the bullied eventually transform and befriend the bullies. It's also reminiscent of my school years, where I was literally bullied for not being a bully. By the way, the thought of hazing is why I never went out for a sorority. I'm not the type who would have given in to what they asked me to do, which would not have gone over well.
Obviously, your story is painfully relatable, and it's sad to realize that not every childhood bully outgrows the tendency. I respect that you fought back, and I love your last line, "Haze THAT, you Loch Ness monsters!" I hope you had the chance to say something equally biting to them in person.
If you don't mind one editing point, "quite" means "somewhat" or "very," which makes "quite full-to-capacity" an oxymoron. "Full-to-capacity" gets your point across without a modifier.
Comment Written 12-Aug-2022
reply by the author on 12-Aug-2022
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I actually got them all back but good by becoming an Aqua Fit TEACHER later that same year! Oh, how I wish I'd taken a picture of those faces!!
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Good for you! I suspect that, if looks could kill, you wouldn't be standing here right now.